“One of the advantages bowling has over golf is that you seldom lose a bowling ball.” — Don Carter
Gutter balls really suck and especially in life.
Everyone has been there at one time or another with an exasperated look on their face when they experience a gutter ball.
We should all realize that during the game we still have frames to complete.
But what do we do?
We focus intensely on the gutter ball; the one that we lost, the one that went sideways or the one that we really needed etc.
The gutter balls are really intense at this juncture of our life but it doesn’t have to be this way.
Focusing on the gutter balls goes nowhere fast and before you know it we are absolutely immobilized by fear, anxiety and every other toxic entity that may be inflicted upon us.
The key to managing all of this stuff is compartmentalization.
Feel everything that you need to feel however when you have done everything humanly possible in order to manage the emotional fallout, press the stop button.
Employ a new strategy and begin to place issues into very distinct boxes. Placing everything into one box is emotionally destructive.
No one places bathroom items, laundry items, grocery items etc. into one drawer or box, so why would we do otherwise with everything else?
Compartmentalization is very effective and works.
The 5 emotional intelligence boxes of life are intellectual, emotional, spiritual, physical and financial.
Mental toughness with compassion and understanding crushes all of the emotional barriers. Mental toughness doesn’t mean being rude, arrogant, stubborn, intolerant or tough. Mental Toughness implies one's ability to compartmentalize.
You acquire the knowledge and mental strength in order to place issues or problems into very distinct and separate boxes without compromising your emotional intelligence.
Unfortunately, they didn’t teach us the stuff that we really needed to know in order to succeed in life regardless of present circumstances. We were not taught the essential life building skills in order to create a more abundant life in all areas.
Possibly, the curriculum was more important than our personal growth.
So here it is in a nutshell.
Did school teach you how to make a lot of money?
Did school teach you how to create loving and amazing relationships?
Did school teach you how to be happy?
Did school teach you how to be fulfilled and live an abundant life?
Did school teach you how to think critically?
The questions will never cease to be asked.
However, all of these good, bad, indifferent and possibly well intentioned teachers did the best that they could do with what they had at the time.
I do not want to appear to be critical of the educational system however as a former educator, I now understand that harnessing the power of your glorious mind and understanding compartmentalization reaps huge rewards intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, physically and financially.
Now, begin to create your own affirming strategies. Personalize these into your own life and begin to see what most people will never see in their lifetime.
After it's all said and done, it’s not about likes, claps, followers, tribes or any other ego-affirming factors. It’s about helping people and providing them with serious tools.
Remember what the late Keith Harrell said, “The best coach with the strongest power over your performance, is the coach that lives within you.”
Now go and teach this to someone else that needs this information so they too can have a better life.
All the best.
Coach Franco Cianflone
1 ON 1 COACHING
Mental Toughness For Life