“A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself — to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.” – Leo F. Buscaglia
I refer to it as the + or – relationship technique amongst couples.
In any relationship there is always a moving forward or moving backward direction in play that affects most relationships.
This might show up as money, family, societal, births, deaths etc. issues that confronts us from time to time.
This + or – technique really helps when there are pressures in life.
If you are in a relationship, consider the + or – technique as a proactive tool for the continued nurturing of your union.
When the other person is on the minus side in terms of overwhelming factors in their life, pause, listen, think and then respond by lifting them up.
When you need lifting up, the other person will nurture you by pausing, listening, thinking and responding.
These issues are always opportunities disguised as a crisis.
This formula for managing disagreements in life is sometimes based on the agree to disagree principle.
You inner eye of understanding based on your intellectual factors will, imagination, memory, perception and reason create greater results towards the progressive nurturing of your relationship.
You don’t have to rely on imposing old paradigms that continue to control your relationship.
Utilize this + or – technique as it will almost always squash reactionary, condescending and impulsive, non-productive words or actions.
Coach Franco Cianflone
1 ON 1 COACHING
Mental Toughness For Life