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“No one can drive us crazy unless we give them the keys.” - Doug Horton
Teach people how you want to be treated.
They will never know how until you provide them with the instructions.
Everything on the planet comes with instructions except this.
Depending on circumstances, they might show up as enablers or codependents.
Regardless of the term that is used, these people prevent you from growing towards your potential in this lifetime.
Basically, they are well-intentioned and wonderful human beings however they believe that their mission in life is to enable or to be a codependent to someone.
Do not get sucked into this scenario.
If you do, you will never leave your comfort zone and someone else will always be driving your bus.
Clearly communicate in a language that is straightforward and totally understandable without emotion.
You should be the only driver of your bus but we both know that this is not always the case.
Manipulators are everywhere and are excellent chameleons.
Manipulators love these people that do not teach them how they want to be treated.
Without an instruction manual, manipulators can get whatever they want all the time by focusing on their weaknesses.
These people are just like piranhas.
In order to move forward towards freedom, you must begin to teach people how you want to be treated.
It’s called terms of engagement.
This is a must.
You must do this from the onset as no one can read your mind.
Be real and tell people who you really are from the very beginning.
You don’t have to be rude, intolerant, or stubborn but you must begin to be mentally tough.
Mentally tough implies that you understand emotional intelligence and compartmentalization.
Begin to think in a way that supports your self-esteem and in turn your approval seeking is no longer an issue with you.
It’s your bus.
It’s your life.
Now, start driving.
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